- Your women's studies prof: Class, do you think pornography enables male entitlement?
- You: Well, according to this essay I read by someone who does porn, it doesn't make a lot of sense to just critique it as a piece of media + not a site + product of highly stigmatized labor. So, yes, it does, but that may largely be beside the point of where and how male violence occurs in relation to pornography.
- That lady at your local NOW chapter: It is WRONG for men to purchase sex, therefore we must make it illegal.
- You: I agree that capitalist conditions create coercive and abusive situations for those in the sex industry, but carceral solutions don't address that underlying issue.
- Your younger sister: *points at a Maxim magazine cover* Isn't it wrong that there are all these sexualized pictures of women everywhere?
- You: It's wrong that the male gaze is all-pervasive and our idea of the ideal woman is profoundly racist, sizeist, ableist, and cissexist. It's also wrong that these images exist within the context of a violent patriarchal culture, but the images themselves are not wrong.
- Some rando in your ask box: How do we end the abuse of people in the sex industries?
- You: Let me link you to this blog by sex workers advocating for workers' rights.
- Your boyfriend: Why is there so much bad sex in porn?
- You: Let me show you this essay on porn by a sex worker.
- Your girlfriend: Stripping is exploitative.
- You: Let me show you this academic article written by a stripper.
- Your aunt: Dominatrices probably think they're empowered but really--
- You: Here's a thing written by a sex worker.
- Your grandpa: Prostitution--
- You: Here's a thing written by a sex worker.
- Your cat:
- You: Good point, let me read you this issue of Prose & Lore out loud.
- You: *signal boosts our words + shows up at rallies + emails legislators + gives orgs like Abeni + Sex Workers Project all your damn money*
Anonymous said: Dearest Lori, after reading posts on your blog & educating myself w/ resources you've linked, I've learned lots! I know you advocate for decriminalization as an interim measure (please correct me if I'm wrong). How do you recommend that feminists like myself support sex workers while simultaneously advocating against the sex industry? I know capitalism is the problem, but shouldn't we still hold male buyers accountable? (p.s. I rewrote this b/c the faux-formality made me sound like a fedora MRA)
Hey, I hate to break it to you, dearest, but you are the equal + opposite force of the MRA: the feminist who really really wants to talk about the men + what we can do about those men. I’m tired of talking about men. But okay, what are we holding them accountable for? Participating in patriarchy? Then why limit yourself to just those who purchase sexual services? Participating in capitalism? Why are we limiting it to men? Why don’t you give nearly as many fucks about the way you, me, AND all these men buy clothes produced by mostly-female garment workers laboring under horrible conditions for low pay? Who asked you to advocate against the sex industry in particular, one of the very few industries that remains an option for those who have been pushed out of all the formal economies like the abusive garment industry? The sex industry is going to be among the *last* to fall, because the poor, disabled, and generally disregarded are going to keep needing it till the revolution ends and utopia is cobbled together from the wreckage of the Forever 21s and H&Ms.
Sex workers don’t need *you* to critique the sex industry. We need you to support *us* in our critiques. If you’re looking for something to advocate against in your free time and economic justice just isn’t sexy enough for you, why not try domestic violence, since that pushes a huge number of people— including most of the underage youth— into the industry? Or, hell, volunteer to play with the kittens at your local animal shelter. Just please, do not write another second-semester philosophy essay on pornography’s effects on male viewers.
Lori Adorable was on a roll last night with her responses to busybody non sexworker feminists looking to dismantle patriarchy by focusing only on sex workers.
Quote from The Pole Story.
what I think is funny is that the specific girl got me all het up is arguing that actually pole dance originated as Mallakhamb or Chinese acrobatics, a stance apparently being promoted by non-stripper pole dancers trying to get social acceptance by affiliating with a grand tradition of like, western appropriation.
but like, the resurgence of pole work in pop culture and it’s subsequent popularity has little to do with men doing acrobatics on large wooden poles or rubber coated poles; it has EVERYTHING to do with western culture’s obsession with female bodies and commodified sexuality and more specifically and recently, strippers.
The tricks she’s doing so badly in her pictures? Those are stripper moves. Strippers created performing on a brass pole, strippers popularised it, strippers TEACH IT.
and strippers get thrown under the bus now it’s been picked up, washed off, and made cool for middle class women looking for empowerment.(via missfreudianslit)
so agree - there are so many ways to get fit - if it is a pole dancing class, it’s a use of strippers’ labour
Yesterday I attended the following panels:
More Buck for Your Bang - Affiliate 101 info with Jiz Lee
Getting In and Getting Out - Identity progression as you enter, are in and leave the porn industry with Dylan Ryan and Danny Wylde
Evaluating the Outcome - How Do We Know When Porn Was Produced With Ethical Feminist Principles? With Jessica Drake, Danny Wylde, Shine Louise Houston, Tristan Taormino and Carlyle Jansen
I will write some overs actions and reflections at my official website once I get back home.
Adult only content
Yeah, it’s a porn site.