what’s in my head & heart right now
âLetting go doesnât mean that you donât care about someone anymore. Itâs just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.â
Deborah Reber
Gosh, do I ever struggle over accepting what I can control in my life especially with my romantic/sexual relationships as well as my work.
âWe must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.â
Joseph Campbell
The first time I experienced this as a challenge was in my late teens when I was trying to figure out where to go to CEGEP and university. Then when my father got cancer I was hit with it hard (and his death even harder). Later when I changed tracks completely career-wise I made new plans and now I am dealing with it again as I ended the most significant relationship of my life and start a new chapter. Still so much to learn when it comes to acceptance.
âI was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken, and Iâd rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken pieces as long as I livedâ
Margaret Mitchell
This one brought me some clarity about a year ago and its still very poignant.
âJealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point â that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative â self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think itâs a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them.â
Jennifer James
I absolutely love this advice. Its one of the many things I have been exploring in therapy and in my own inner musings. I feel closer to this truth than ever before, but I still have a ways to go.
